Sunday, February 17, 2013

Those Honest Homeless Folks...

Another feel-good homeless story showed up on my news feed about a homeless guy who returned a diamond ring that was accidently dropped into his panhandling cup, and I almost ignored it, because I consider these stories non-productive distractions from the real homelessness issues.  I mean, if a news network decides they are only going to cover one story about homelessness this month, I prefer they talk about wealth disparity, or empowering solutions, not fluffy stuff about how "those homeless people can actually have a sense of morals!"

A parallel message runs here: The story is saying "look how nice and honest this homeless person is," but it's ALSO saying "most homeless people are theives, so this is an unexpected surprise."  If you think I am being a bummer, or too critical of a feel good story, consider this:

What if this story said "Black Man Returns Ring, Says he Was 'Raised to be Honest' " Would you still think it was a beneficial story?  Personally I find it appalling that people are surprised by honesty from the poor.  If we are going to generalize, I'd say it would be much more surprising to find honesty on wall street.  Common sense will tell you the best thieves have more money in their bank account.



Monday, November 12, 2012

How to Say No to a Homeless Person

This business of helping the homeless is tough.  You have to say no a lot, because the money, food, housing, etc. just isn't there.  Now let's leave aside the issue of where all the money is(lest we incur the wrath of private corporations and their political friends), and get on with the business of functioning.   The list below will help you to justify excluding clients from resources while still looking quite professional and helpful.  These are also methods you can use to rationalize the current economic situation, so you can sleep at night.

1) Tell yourself and your coworkers that you would only be "Setting the client up for failure."  A very trendy way to exclude, and useful to deny people who you think are too screwed-up, or beyond help.  It sounds like a helpful pop psychology term, but it has no basis in reality.  What it really says is more along the lines of "You are just going to screw this up, so why bother trying?"

2) Say that you are going to "Refer them to more appropriate resources." The beauty of this one is that you are not obligated to say whether or not those resources exist. 

3) You could say "It was a team decision," which leaves no blame anywhere.  After all, that's one of the reasons why we make teams, isn't it? Team decisions diffuse blame and avoid direct accountability, so they are perfect for this scenario.  You could even tell the client "Hey, buddy, I was on your side, but the team just wouldn't believe me."  Who would be the wiser?  Just make sure you have eliminated any transparency in your process if you want to use this method.

4) Say the resource is "Not intended for crisis circumstances." This is a paraphrase on #2, and it also fails to point out that the resources "intended for crisis circumstances" are equally non-existent.

5) You could go for the jugular vein and say that the client's "Personal choices are such that providing service is problematic."  As a new twist on blame-the-victim, this method takes all responsibility from your organization, and simply says "they made their own bed."  I guess ending homelessness will prove "problematic" as well...

6) You can strutinize their "engagement" with service providers, and say they missed appointments, or "failed to pursue all avenues." Another twist on blame-the-victim.  Maybe they missed that appointment because they didn't want to set YOU up for failure.

7) If the client has pursued all avenues, you could say that they are "resource dependent, and providing more resources is not beneficial." This phrase is useful for clients you have labelled with personality disorder.  It's the idea that helping people only makes them need more help. Chew on that logic for a while.

8) You could say "Staff retention would be impacted."  Sometimes, staff threaten to quit if "so-and-so" is allowed into a program.  To refer to staff needs is another way of saying the client is a major "pain in the ass," and your organization doesn't want to deal with them.

9) You can say the client "does not have adequate supports in place."  This form of refusal is a way of blaming your community AND the client at the same time(mostly the client though-- the other organizations have usually covered their butts with one of the above methods).



Ok, to leave the Cobert-style wit aside, I think there are a few things to keep in mind when faced with the impossible task of helping people without enough resources.  We need to be transparent about how we apply resources, and trust clients enough to tell them why we didn't choose them. 

I am not overlooking the difficulties of dealing with clients who have numerous challenges, and sometimes we know that people are just "not ready," (though I hate that phrase for it's negativity).  I do however, realize that when a client presents with challenging behaviours, we can match them with equally creative solutions.

We also need to be flexible, particularly with our various organizational mandates.  In the interest of focusing on a specific area of help, we often sacrifice our ability to get the job done on a larger scale.  In some ways, the economic and political climate has divided us helpful types into tribes and groups, and we spend more energy excluding than we do including clients.  If we are about to say "this client is not within our mandate, we first need to see if that person falls within anybody's mandate-- is there another realistic option for them?  If not, we need to look at our mandate, and change it if necessary.

Lastly, I want to say that if an organization truly wants to help the homeless, it needs to have one foot on the ground with the client, and one foot in the political arena, because these issues are much larger than the local community.  By asking the larger questions, service providers can help expose the impossiblity of this situation, and get to the heart of the matter.  It's much too easy to blame the client rather than tackle the difficult issue of resource distribution.


Sunday, October 28, 2012

Depression is Real

It's nice to see a mental health condition being treated for what it is:

http://www.theprovince.com/Victoria+store+fined+firing+depressed+worker/7458900/story.html

Depression is very real, as any current or former sufferer will tell you.  The symptoms are unfortunately damaging to one's social circles, close relationships, and employment positions.  Perhaps this damage is more rooted in our insatiable need to punish, correct, discipline, or exile those who make seemingly bad social choices.  Ditto for those with addictions-- rather than see the reality of the circumstances that led to the illness, it is much easier to sit back, play armchair jury, and sentence the "wrongdoer" to whatever consequences we see will fit in the moment.  Not a lot of thought goes into this process usually.  Once the depressed or ill person has been labelled a "jerk" or "lazy," the job of punishing them is met with little resistance from any party.  It's so nice to see at least one depressed woman stand up and say "No! I am ill, not some mean, useless, or malicious person."  It's even nicer to see the courts respect that position and rule in her favour. 

There is a powerful analogy I read somewhere, I wish I could remember the source, but the gist of it is as follows:

Think of the best friend you have, a person you greatly respect the opinion of, and in whom you would place a good deal of trust.  Once you have the friend in mind, consider the image of them screaming and cursing at you out a window as you're walking down the street.  Imagine they are upset about a disagreement you had with them over something insignificant.  Imagine your feelings in this scenario... do you feel hurt? Angry? What do you want to do?  Perhaps write down your thoughts and feelings, and erase the image. 
Now replace it with an image of the same friend saying the same things for the same reasons under a different context.  In this second scenario, imagine the window that your friend is screaming from is at a residential mental health facility, where he/she has been placed for acute depression.  What are your feelings now?  Are they different? How might you react now?

This awareness-raising exercise should demonstrate clearly how you can feel and react to situations with different levels of understanding.  I take a flexible attitude to work with me every day, because I have seen over and over that even the most malicious-looking person has a deeper story if I care to investigate.  It takes more patience and dilligence, but in the end, understanding reality for what it is pays off.